Adoption Questions

At Church on Mother’s Day my 16-year-old son leaned over to me and said, “I wonder if I love you the same as I would my REAL mother?”  He really wants to know what it feels like to love his actual mother.

It wasn’t mean, it didn’t hurt my feelings.  I have been wondering the same thing in reverse.

Do I love my children the same as I would if they were biological? 
I can’t answer that because I don’t have any “biological” children.  I love my children. 
Is it the same type of love that mothers have who actually give birth?  I don’t know.  I probably will never know.  It is a question that I can’t answer - but a valid (and hard) question nonetheless.

My son made this for me on Mother's Day. Love him!

Assumptions - Becoming a Mom

Before I became a mother I would notice mothers everywhere interacting with their children, at the grocery store, in the library, etc. I used to think “they are so lucky to have children…” and I would make automatic assumptions about their life (being jealous of course that they had little ones to care for).

Years after becoming a mother I really try making fewer assumptions about the mothers I see and I wonder about their story and how they became mothers (if they love it, if they have a hard time, if they feel guilty about not spending enough time with their children, if they lose their temper, if they enjoy the little things about their children, if their children are adopted, if they are step-parents, single-parents, etc).


Now as I rush around with my children I wonder if any other women make the correct assumption about me ~
“she is so lucky to be a mom!”