tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9040180992163425108.post6550392806355926419..comments2017-03-21T15:36:04.442-07:00Comments on The Adoptive Mother: Better than ChristmasCamillehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02604787963727722166noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9040180992163425108.post-52220001140190669372011-05-25T12:19:16.906-07:002011-05-25T12:19:16.906-07:00I am finally reading this post, and ah! Tears!!! Y...I am finally reading this post, and ah! Tears!!! You are such a wonderful mother, Camille!! That is so sweet that Bryan had the chance to share his feelings about you as his mother. You truly are such an awesome example - even to ME and in so many ways!!! I heart you!emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17177764833935313900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9040180992163425108.post-76219519573834619632011-05-20T17:10:28.315-07:002011-05-20T17:10:28.315-07:00ive found something that has helped me explain my ...ive found something that has helped me explain my situation (at my wedding both my birth mom, and my fiances birthmom will be there and both of them have kids who will be in our wedding in various roles) to friends and family is that its more of an extended family kind of relationship...its not confusing for me because i know that my parents are the amazing people who raised me, and my birthmom is the amazing person who gave me a chance at a better life...but my relation with her is much more one of a beloved aunt or family member then a parenting role...i think that people are scared about kids getting confused when they dont understand that my birthmom is in no way trying to control my upbringing or raise me, and when i have explained it to friends and family as more of a extended family role they seem much more accepting and a lot less paraniod or judgmental of the fact that i know her, and know her reasons for giving me up.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192596811310146051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9040180992163425108.post-19464976089732528632011-05-19T08:29:20.446-07:002011-05-19T08:29:20.446-07:00Thank you so much for your comment! I saw on my e-...Thank you so much for your comment! I saw on my e-mail that I had a comment and I was almost afraid to open it. So many people have negative views of open adoption, or adoption in general and I have been blasted several times about "going public" - my blog was actually closed for quite some time and I just recently made it open to the public. <br /><br />I agree that "knowing is better than not knowing" and "having relationships with birthparents is crucial." The relationship my children have with their birthparents and extended family has made a huge difference in how they feel about themselves. <br /><br />I always appreciate ideas or suggestions about open adoption and things that have worked for other people. Thank you for sharing part of your life and for your words of encouragement! I do feel extremely blessed to have such wonderful children and a relatoinship with their birth mother and family. Thanks again!Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02604787963727722166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9040180992163425108.post-90387286143311011442011-05-18T02:59:09.381-07:002011-05-18T02:59:09.381-07:00just stayed up till 3am reading your story. Its an...just stayed up till 3am reading your story. Its an incredible story. I am an adoptee (as is my brother, and my fiance) working towards my social work degree hoping to work in adoptions or in "foster to adopt" or "waiting children" programs. I am really blessed and excited about your decisions to be honest with your children from the beginning and having the courage to give them openness with thier biological links. Not only is this proven scientifically to benefit the children, but as a child of a "semi-open" adoption, knowing is always better then not knowing, and having relationships with birthparents is crucial to an individuals idea about who they are. Also i am encouraged that you have "gone public" with this as i believe that many people fear openness in adoption or even adoption in general and the more people who can be honest about both the struggles and joys, the less scary territory it is for people. Your children are extremely lucky to have a family that has kept the family together and been able to provide for them. Many children in the foster system dream of such a family.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192596811310146051noreply@blogger.com